MOTIVATING THE MIDDLE
Navigating the way through the challenging teenage years does not get any easier for our girls. In fact, several new developments around smart technology, peer pressure, relational aggression and cyber-bullying, poor body image, early sexualisation, mental health and relationship intimacy place exacting demands on our girls around the time when their individuality, uniqueness and aspirations should be up front and centre.
Quite often having someone to talk to and guide them through this frame-breaking time when their identity is taking shape, can make a huge difference and this is the remit of our Big Sister programme.
The Big Sister programme targets the middle girls. The ones who are in danger of becoming invisible as they simply cruise through school trying to find their place. These are the girls who are neither seriously disruptive nor academically gifted so they tend to get lost in the noise and either hide in the corner or look for validation in all the wrong places. The one thing they all share is a propensity to underperform. We understand these girls; we are passionate about these girls. We know for sure with some guidance and an awesome role model on their side these girls will step up, find their voice and shine.
THE IMPACT ON THE GIRLS
The impact on the Little Sisters ie the mentees on this programme is life changing. Here are 2 girls Lexie and Jessica who recently completed the programme and were the joint winners of the Little Sister Out Loud Award at our Shining Stars Ball in Oct 2019. Their words say it all.
THE IMPACT ON THE WOMEN
Over the years we have come to realise the Big Sister programme is as much a personal development programme for the women stepping up to be mentors as it is for the girls they support. It is clearly impossible to help a young girl find her voice, become more visible, improve her confidence and resilience and raise her game if you are not also doing this, so Little Sisters hold their Big Sisters to account without even knowing it! How empowering is that?
Big Sisters report major shifts in their confidence, risk taking, communications skills, mind-set and career aspirations and most importantly their visibility.
The women who step up, talk about their Big Sister experience as a major lesson in self-reflection and personal branding.
BECOMING A BIG SISTER:
We recruit, select, train and support women from all walks of life to step up and become Big Sisters – from the corporate sector, entrepreneurs, the public sector and everything in between!
Since 2016 the demand for our work has escalated but school budgets for external intervention have virtually disappeared so to be able to continue with our much needed work we ask Big Sisters to contribute to the cost of this programme as the benefits to them are substantial too. You can do this by securing corporate sponsorship, fund raising or self-funding, The cost is £1k for your place. This includes your mentor training, peer mentoring during the programme, support and guidance during your year and all the events including launch and graduation.
The only other criteria for participation is simple:
- You must be at least 23 years old with some life experience.
- You must be comfortable in your own skin
- You must be able to define your own success
- You must be willing to be present for a young girl, committed to her wellbeing for 12 months.
To apply to join our Big Sister posse please click here
Sometimes we receive funding from other organisations and brands to support our work and more often than not we allocate these funds to supporting Big Sisters.
THE COMMITMENT – HOW IT WORKS
We contract with a school to run a Big Sister programme for 20 middle girls, from the same year, over 12 months. We then recruit and train 20 Big Sisters and connect the Big and Little Sisters and they work together as a family unit within the school environment for the following year. Alongside monthly one to one sessions our team organise several group events throughout the year for the whole group of Big and Little Sisters starting with a launch event where the Big Sisters get to meet their Little Sister for the first time, ending with a graduation ceremony where the Big and Little Sisters get celebrate their year together.
On average most Big Sisters commit to 22 hours a year volunteer time.
In addition to this we also train our mentors up front. This is done over a weekend day and early evening and counts for a further 10 hours and finally we support our mentors with 3 x 2 hour peer mentoring sessions throughout the year to help us deliver more skills, run good practice sessions and nurture their new peer group.
This is why we do it…
To date as a result of the Big Sister programme the confidence improvement in girls is 100%. We see around 50% improvement in attendance; 90% of girls on target to achieve 3 levels of improvement with regard to attainment; no pregnancies, no anti-social behaviour; and over 90% of girls setting their sights on further education or some form of vocational training.
We see shy girls find their voice; we see queen bees channel their street smart in a more empowering way; we see newly confident girls standing up for themselves, moving into new peer groups, making better choices with more emotional resilience and excited about their future.
And most importantly we see girls recognising their potential and embracing their greatness and taking on our philosophy of paying it forward and becoming a Big Sister to other girls in their school who may need some support or a friend.
This film was taken at one of our Big Sister graduation ceremonies where Big and Little Sisters celebrate their year long journey of mentoring and support together. They thank each other, share journeys and say goodbye – very empowering event!
I’ve loved every minute of being a Big Sister. It’s such a joy to watch your little sister grow; to start believing in herself and realising she can go on to achieve and be anything she wants, just by being her brave bold and beautiful self. As a Big Sister you learn how your own insecurities are holding you back, and how to push them aside so you can realise your own potential. All it takes is an hour a month of talking, listening, and learning together to have an immeasurable impact on both you.Lisa Irons, Customer Strategy Manager, Co-op
Becoming a Big Sister really changed my life. I found the key messages in mentoring two young women were so relevant to my own life. I started to listen to my own advice, which in the end, proved very useful. I felt a sense of purpose whilst on the programme, this was something I could offer that was making a difference. I was also able to use the mentoring training and skills I got from the programme with my team.Loretta, ex Head of HR at Pladis Global (McVities) now EMEA Employee Lead at Bristol-Myers Squibb
I consider myself a strong coach and found through the Big Sister programme I was able to build my skill set through mentoring a different type of coachee. Softer, almost nurturing skills are an asset and often more difficult to get right. If you have ever tried negotiating with a teenager you will know that I developed this skill set in spades whilst encouraging my Little Sister to step outside her comfort zone and commit to trying something new.
Warburtons is a huge fan of the programme and without exception all of the women who have participated have benefited personally from the experience, alongside bringing a better version of themselves back to the organisation.Caroline Wood, HR Business Partner, Warburtons
My Little Sister has quite simply blown me away. The Big Sister programme never ceases to amaze me. This is my third year as a big sister and each experience has been completely different but equally inspiring and memorable. Sumaiya’s attitude is commendable and her outlook is refreshing. It has been an utter joy to be a part of her journey and I know that she will achieve anything and everything she has her mind and heart set on in the future.Hattie Pearson Presenter at HitsRadio, Boss @GirlsOnFilm80 and DJ/Voiceover Artist
Meeting up with my little sister Olivia this past year has been like having a monthly injection of fresh air. Her passion, enthusiasm and determination are infectious & inspiring. I’ve loved watching Olivia grow and fell honoured to have played a small part in her journey. I’ve met some amazing big sisters too, lots of special friendships that will always have a place in my heart. Thank you Girls Out Loud for a wonderful year learning new things & meeting new people outside of my usual work / home life bubble.
Louise & Olivia in session
My Big Sister inspires me to be me and that’s enough. We can talk about anything.Little Sister Quote…
It’s great to have someone on my side to prove to me I am someone.Little Sister Quote…
I am more confident and if people are mean to me I ignore them or tell them to shut-up!Little Sister Quote…
My Big Sister encourages me to be better, she gives me short term goals and I keep getting merits and less referrals.Little Sister Quote…
My Big Sister reminds me who I am and how awesome I am.Little Sister Quote…